Being upset about something, I was walking around the office. I was stopped by my buddy, she gave me a confused look, twice.
Buddy : Your face, something wrong?
Me : Does it look too obvious ?, yes, I am kinda upset, but nothing big.
Buddy : Yeah, Wait, I read something today, I will send it to you right away, Read it.
Me : Sure.
Then she sent me the following.
The cockroach theory for self development
At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady. She started screaming out of fear. With a panic stricken face and trembling voice,she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach. Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky. The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but …it landed on another lady in the group.
Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama. The waiter rushed forward to their rescue. In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter. The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt.
When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant. Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior? If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?
He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos. It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies. I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it’s my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me. It’s not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me. More than the problem, it’s my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.
Lessons learnt from the story:
I understood, I should not react in life. I should always respond. The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.
Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of. A beautiful way to understand…………LIFE. Person who is HAPPY is not because Everything is RIGHT in his Life.. He is HAPPY because his Attitude towards Everything in his Life is Right..!!
The above is a speech by Sundar Pichai – an IIT-MIT Alumnus and currently heads Android and Chrome at google.
A part of me felt comfort after reading it, but the other started to think various other cases. Is the waiter got used to Cockroaches, How he would have reacted for the first time, What made him mature from just reacting to responding. Then I started thinking about the Cockroach, Is Cockroach a simple insect?, They look very disgusting, They can withstand high radiations too. Then about the women who reacted, Isn’t it natural for her to react this way. This is how exactly my mind over thinks about every other thing by leaving the key element aside.
The same mind of me which responds to bigger things without panicking, reacts too fast for really small and silly things, which I must actually ignore. That is why, I could exactly relate myself to the above. Now I say this to myself “Either ignore the Cockroaches or learn to handle them, else you will least enjoy the beauty of Butterflies around you”.